The 3 C’s as presented on this page have been adapted from other sources as a view one person's relationship with the choices made by another person who might be a family member, friend or co-worker.

To keep the actions and choices made by others in perspective, remember that you...:

Didn’t Cause It:

It’s extremely important to remember that you are not the cause of the actions and choices of others. While it is not unusual for another to cast blame on those closest to them, it is simply an attempt by the individual to justify their actions. Oftentimes accepting that you didn’t cause an undesirable situation experienced by another can relieve a lot of the guilt you feel about their actions. This realization can also help lead the individual to take responsibility over their own actions.

Can’t Cure It:

You can’t cure another's situation. It might be much like diabetes or heart disease with which an individual can manage his or her disease, but can not completely rid their lives of its effects.

Can’t Control It:

It’s extremely important to remember that you are not able to control the actions of others. The decision to make other choices and to take different actions is a decision that others must make for themselves. The best thing you can do is to provide positive support and encouragement to seek proper advice.

Any actions that any of us take affect others, not just ourselves.  

Adapted and modified without permission from elements-Behavioral Health